3 Super-fast Ways to Prime Your Super-Self-Belief

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Primer 1 – You can learn it!

Remember, even if you lack some self-belief now (and almost every one does, even at a subconscious level) self-belief is a learn-able human skill. It is of course indispensable to all human achievement.

Your level of self-belief isn’t set in stone. We can all be flexible and change, even ’fly’. Remember you were born into this world with no sense of what you could or couldn’t do. Then, bit by bit, life started to teach you to limit yourself. A very young child never says: “I’m not the kind of person who could…” They haven’t yet learned to limit their own horizons or listened to people who leak pessimism.

One of the first steps is to re-examine and discard many of the limiting ideas you have about yourself; ideas that you’ve somehow collected along the way.

Primer 2 – Deal with the bitch inside! You are not listening!

When you start to doubt yourself listen, for a moment, to that little negative inner voice. Whose voice is it really? A parent’s, old school bullies? A collection of lots of different voices from different times and people? That little inner self-critical voice may sound very bitchy, but wasn’t yours originally. It may masquerade as belonging to you now, but like a worn out coat that you've got so used to, you can't throw away. But it is something you can discard at will.

Firstly, you've got to catch yourself when the voice pipes up... Recognise it as not THE TRUTH. NOT YOU!

Then start to challenge it and also to just plain ignore it.

If we just focus on what is not right about ourselves rather than what is unique and beautiful, then we miss opportunities for self-belief.

We shouldn’t assume there’s nothing to improve about ourselves, (that's the work of a lifetime!) but just focusing on perceived weaknesses without either a) taking steps to improve them or b) also giving fair focus toward our strengths, gets us nowhere.

For example, if you know that you can be stubborn, then find the positive in that! Stubbornness, used well, is called single-minded determination.

If you worry a lot, know that the positive flip-side of this is that you have a powerful

imagination which, in the right context, can be put to good, creative use. Being ADD may be sign of multiple talents just waiting to be revealed!

Whatever we consider our own fallibilities to be, are actually opportunities for greatness.

Flip a negative into a positive

Dumbo, Walt Disney's flying quadruped, was humiliated by his outsize ears. He hated them at first. But, through time, he came to use the

Primer - 3 Flip a weakness into a strength

Dumbo was really good at this! He managed to fulfil his destiny even, by changing his attitude about his big ears!

If we just focus on what is not right about ourselves rather than what is unique and beautiful, then we miss opportunities for self-belief.

We shouldn’t assume there’s nothing to improve about ourselves, (that's the work of a lifetime!) but just focusing on perceived weaknesses without either a) taking steps to improve them or b) also giving fair focus toward our strengths, gets us nowhere.

For example, if you know that you can be stubborn, then find the positive in that! Stubbornness, used well, is called single-minded determination.

If you worry a lot, know that the positive flip-side of this is that you have a powerful imagination which, in the right context, can be put to good, creative use.

Being ADD may be sign of multiple talents just waiting to be revealed!

Whatever we consider our own fallibilities to be, are actually opportunities for greatness.

Take any negative belief you may have about yourself and creatively flip it so that it becomes, in its place, a positive resource:

(think: ’ears/Dumbo‘ - meaning 'Outsize Ears= Born to FLY...)

Remember Tom Hanks in 'Saving Private Ryan'... handicapped but born to run and inspire... (think: simple, loving and devoted = courageous and inspiring!

Jenni P